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Tuesday, May 28, 2019

Coach K on WFAN with Rick Wolff - The Sports Edge

May 26, 2019 - The Rick Wolff Sports Edge Show on WFAN with Coach Dave Kotowski

Click on the WFAN logo below to listen to Coach Kotowski's guest appearance on the WFAN Sports Edge with Rick Wolff.

Rick and Coach K talk about girl's lacrosse, the impact of concussions, girl's lacrosse helmets and how to keep the game safe.  Here Coach K's suggestions on how to keep the game safer for all players including adjusting the rules and enforcing the current rules.

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Wednesday, February 20, 2019

Champions Don’t Have Balance


Champions Don’t Have Balance
By Dave Kotowski

I was listening to a recent podcast where ex-professional athlete Lewis Howes (The School of Greatness) was interviewing Crossfit World Champion Katrin DavĂ­dsdottir from Iceland.  The podcast link is https://lewishowes.com/podcast/the-worlds-greatest-athlete-katrin-davidsdottir/ and your can you can follow Katrin on instagram @Katrintanja. 

In the podcast Katrin said something that really struck me - “Champions Don’t Have Balance.”  Forever I have heard world class speakers, teachers and coaches talk about having the right balance.  Just think how many times have you heard someone say you must have balance in your life. 

Let me say this - balance is a good thing.  But motivation and goals and need to be at the centerpiece of what is truly important to you. If you choose to be like “everyone else” then you will be average.  If you choose to be great then you need to be a little off balance. 

When I was working for Merrill Lynch in the late 1990’s I remember a great quote that the President of Merrill, Launny Steffens said to me - “At Merrill Lynch I treat everyone equally, some more equally than others.” 

Basically he was telling me that as a manager we needed to treat everyone equally, however, there were certain people who we needed to treat differently.  A few years ago I had the opportunity to be part of a group of coaches who spent some time with a former USA Olympics coach.  One of the things that struck me was him saying that we needed to give more time to our top players because they will be the ones who will make the biggest difference.  That is why Katrin’s quote really stuck with me.  Some things in our life must be given more of a focus depending how important they are to you. 

Just to give you some background on Katrin, she was a former gymnast and track athlete who did not start Crossfit competitions until 2011.  After only 1 year of competing, she took 30th place in the world championships in 2012.  That alone is crazy and just goes to show you what type of athlete she is.  In 2013 she improved to 24th place and in 2014 Katrin who said “was in the best shape of her life” had one devastating event that knocked her out of qualifying completely. 

Katrin said it was the mental side that had let her down.  She proved just how strong she was mentally and physically and one year later won the title of Fittest Woman on Earth in 2015.  In 2016, Katrin’s grandmother and best friend passed away.  Her grandmother became her fuel and she became only the 2nd woman in history to win back to back World Championships. 



For me to become a better coach and better leader, I am always looking for motivation, new techniques and skills to help our athletes.  Hearing Katrin’s story and listening to her quote about balance really impacted me and made me want to write about this topic.
Champions Don’t Have Balance.  If you want to be the best then you have to train like no one else.  At its simplest point - you need to train to be better than the 2nd place finisher.  What is that person doing or in some cases what aren’t they doing? Are you willing to put in the time and effort necessary to be the best at what you do?  Are you pushing yourself every day?  Jack Hayes who is the Athletic Director at Brown University once said “If you are not getting better every day, you are getting worse.” 

As it relates to lacrosse, I hear so many players tell me that they want to play in college.  When I ask where they want to play they will rattle off some of the best colleges in the country.  These schools are the best of the best and have some of the best lacrosse players in the world playing for them.  Those players worked really hard to get where they are today. Are you willing to work as hard or harder than them to even have the chance to play at a school like theirs? 

That’s the real question a player needs to ask themselves.  And unfortunately in today’s world - this question needs to be asked of the parents as well.   I see all too many times the parent who wants it more than their child does.  Well guess what - that is not going to work. 

In 1996 I had the opportunity to have Greg Cattrano, a Brown University  lacrosse goaltender from Ward Melville HS come and intern for me at Merrill Lynch.  A lot of people don't know that my own lacrosse career started as a goalie before switching over to defense at the end of my freshman year.  As a former goalie, I was excited to have Greg as an intern.  During that summer I asked Greg what his goals were for his senior year.  He told me he wanted to make 1st Team All Ivy.  I then asked Greg if he knew what it would take to be First Team All-Ivy.  Did he know what the goals against average was for the last  5 winners?  How many saves per game did they have?  What was their save percentage? 

Greg researched this information and came back to me with it.  I then asked him if his teammates knew about his goals and he said no.  We talked about how important it was for him to share what he wanted to achieve with his teammates so they could all be on the same page and work together.  As a goalie - if you don’t have the confidence of your defense you won't go very far. 

Well in his senior year at Brown in 1997 - Greg Cattrano not only became a 1st Team All Ivy Goaltender but he was named the NCAA Goalie of the Year.  He finished his Brown career with an unheard of 68% save percentage.  Greg Cattrano was on a mission.  He had to focus on what was truly important to him.  Giving his goals the effort they deserved.  He knew he had to be out of balance.


Just like Katrin did by winning back to back World Championships - Greg also proved that his 1997 senior season wasn’t just a fluke.  Greg went on to be a star in Major League Lacrosse.  He played in all five of the league’s first ever Championship games from 2001 - 2005 and won the Championships in 2002, 20023 and 2004.  He was named MLL Goalie of the Year 3 times. 

If you want to be the best - you need to be out of balance.  You need to give your goals the focus they deserve.  Hard work will beat talent when talent doesn’t work hard.  You could have the most talent in the world but if you don’t put the time in to make yourself better you will go nowhere.  As a coach I think one of our most important jobs is to help our athletes be the best they can be.  There will be days when they don’t feel like being great and that is when they need us the most - to coach them, push them, inspire them so that they can achieve their goals.

It’s also important for us to be there when they don’t hit their goals. In the world of sports there is only 1 champion every year - everybody else lost.  Everyone else came in 2nd place or worse.
It is at these times that we must be there for our athletes and our athletes must be there for themselves and their teammates. 

We have all heard the saying - Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Lose.  One of my friends gave me a great book by New York Times Bestselling author John Maxwell entitled - “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn.”  And that in and of itself is one of the most valuable lessons for anyone.  Don’t look at a loss as just a loss with negative connotations. Look at it as a way to learn.  Why did you lose? How did you lose?  What can you learn from that loss to empower you and make you better? 


In 2017, after winning back to back World Championships in 2015 and 2016 Katrin took 5th place.  The message she sent out to her fans is just a display of the type of champion’s mindset that she has.  Here’s her message:  


You win .. or you learn.
I’m trying to wrap my head around this whole season. Mostly just the fact that it is over. This is certainly not the results we wanted but in a weird sense this might have been my favorite CrossFit Games so far .. we got to FIGHT & we got to LEARN so much more than any of the times we stood on top of the podium. Giving it everything we have, regardless of circumstances, is something Ben talks to me about alllllllll the time .. now we got to live it.
I’ve been on both sides of the story where at the end of it all my name is called & also when someone else’s is .. and that hurts. When I know we CAN win .. It hurts. We can still walk away with our head held high & no regrets. I feel like you can only regret something & it truly be a mistake if you don’t learn from it. If you learn, you win.
The competition is AHHMAZING, my competitors are absolutely incredible athletes & it is nothing at all to be ashamed of to be standing behind them at the end of it all. They really impress me. And they REALLY give me fire for this whole upcoming year
I can’t wait to be back .. 2018 is in trrrrrrouble hehe

What will you do to be a Champion? Are you willing to be “unbalanced” if it leads you on the path to greatness?  Hopefully you will find inspiration in the message of Katrin and Greg so that you can ELEVATE yourself and be the Champion you deserve to be.

All my best - keep ELEVATING!

Coach K


Thursday, March 26, 2015

The Moment

The Moment


The warm up is done.  Your coach has given you the pre-game speech.  You take off your sweats and you walk out onto the field.  The butterflies in your stomach seem more like eagles right now.  You are nervous and excited all at the same time.  You’ve been waiting for this for a long time.  You been working hard to get ready, to prepare.  This is it - this is your moment.

Are you ready?  Will you be up to the challenge?  Will you make the play? All of these thoughts race through your head as the ref places the ball between the two sticks and gets ready to blow the whistle.  Drops of sweat drip off your brow - some of it is from your warm up and some of it is from your excitement.  The ref backs out of the circle and blows the whistle - it’s happening, it’s really here - this is your moment.

Will you make the next play?  Will you make an impact?  Will you rise up?

Life is made up of moments.  The older you get the more you realize how important it is to be ready for YOUR moment - YOUR chance - YOUR opportunity.  As athletes I think it is so important to focus on the entire journey and not just the result.  Take pride in your preparation.  But most importantly be prepared - be ready.

What will be your moment?  Far too many people focus just on Championships.  Championships are awesome - don’t get me wrong, but let’s put them into perspective.  In 2015 in the state of New York - 365 girl’s varsity team will take the field this spring.  Only 4 of them will be called State Champions at the end of the year in Class A, B, C and Private.  Less than 1% of the teams playing will end the year as “Champions. ”  Don’t just let championships and end results be your measuring stick.  What about the other 361 teams?  Are they failures?  Of course not.  Let your measuring stick be your moments.  

There will be plenty of moments for you on your journey through life.  There will be plenty of moments for you on the field.  All I ask of you is this - be ready.  

The ref blows the whistle and the game has begun.  Nervous pent up energy explodes into physical energy.  The ball flies high into the air and has landed 5 yards from you.  Your opponent is only 4 yards away.  This is your moment.  You explode, you attack.  Instincts take over and you do nothing but focus on the ball in front of you.  You are ready.  You have scooped thousands of balls from the time you picked up your first stick.  

Do you remember picking up that first stick? Maybe you placed the ball into the stick with your hand.  Your pocket was so tight that the ball rattled around in the plastic.  It felt foreign to you.  It was strange.  Maybe you were uncomfortable.  But you learned how to cradle, how to scoop, catch and throw.  You put in the time, the effort, the practices, the blood, the sweat and sometimes the tears.  You worked hard because you love this game of lacrosse.  You worked hard to be ready.

You close in on the ground ball as you have caught up to your opponent.  You have gained ground because she was not going full speed.  She did not expect you to be there - you were ready and she was not.  You don’t slow down for even a split second and you explode through the ball.  Your hands are gripping the plastic of the head of your stick like you were always taught.  Your hands are even with the ground.  Your legs are bent and your eyes are focused.  

This is your moment!  There is no time to think, not time to question your self, your body and mind have taken over.  Practice has turned into habits, habits have turned into skill.  You are ready - you WILL do this.  Time seems to slow down for you as the ball is now scooped into your stick. It’s the first ground ball of the year.  So much went into this one moment and now it is yours.  



In your journey through life, it will be filled with lots of moments.  You need to be ready for them and the only way to be ready is to put in the time and effort required.  No one else can do this for you.  No coach, no parents, no teammates - Just you.  

How you react and perform in these moments is also just about YOU.  

Take pride in your work ethic.  Take pride in your practice.  Take pride in the time that you spend honing your skills.  All of this will prepare you for the moment.  

Whether that moment is picking up a ground ball, scoring the winning goal, making a great pass or being the girl who makes sure that her teammates are pumped up - just be ready.  

The lacrosse season has started.  Cherish the moment.

Coach K

p.s. If you want to listen to a great speech about the Moment - click below to listen to Herb Brooks talking to the Gold Medal winning Team USA hockey team from the move Miracle. Great Moments are Born from Great Opportunity!"

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Social Media Sabotage

Social Media Sabotage

Updated as of 3/12/19:

Social media is such a great thing.  I personally love sites like FaceBook, Instagram, LinkedIn and Twitter and I use all of them.  They are great for re-connecting with old friends and staying in touch with family, friends, coworkers and classmates.  They can also be a very valuable tool for your business as well.

However, social media can also be a tool that sabotages you forever.

This past week lacrosse was once again in the national news and unfortunately it was not for something good.  Five female lacrosse players at the University of Maryland Baltimore County (UMBC) were suspended indefinitely for posts they made using an app called Group Me.  I am not part of the UMBC staff, athletic administration, the campus itself or do I have any connections to current players on the team  - however, we are all connected through the game of lacrosse.  And in full disclosure, I personally know one of their coaches Amy Slade.

The posts made by the 5 girls were really bad.  There were threats of bodily harm to their freshman teammates and eventually lead to one post essentially saying "maybe we should kill one of them" and then another that said "maybe we should kill one of the coaches as well."

These five girls have had their pictures on national media, they have been talked about on national news including Good Morning America and ESPN.   For the rest of their lives when someone googles their name, their suspensions and their posts will come up.  It's there for everyone to see.

I am not here to judge these girls or their coaches.  As they say, there are always three sides to every story,  Yours, Theirs and something in the middle.  Right now there are a lot of people pointing fingers and people have varying opinions on what should be done.  Well one head has already rolled. UMBC had co-head coaches - Amy Slade and Tony Giro.  Tony was released by UMBC yesterday and Amy has assumed the sole Head Coaching role.

As I tried to learn more about he situation I also uncovered that one of the freshman girls who exposed the posts was being called out and threatened.  Look how many people's lives are already forever changed because of social media and these posts.  Apparently the girls have apologized, and I am sure that every single one of them would love to have their words back.  But unfortunately - the internet is forever.  It's not just the lives of the players and the coaches that are effected, but the families, the school and the administration as well.

All of  this from posts made in a group chat!

Every mistake made needs to be analyzed so that we can learn from them.   This past weekend, and several times this week I have had group conversations with our parents, our coaches and some of our players about social media.  Over the last few years we have spoken to girls about the need to be diligent in reviewing what you are going to post.  In the UMBC case these girls all thought they were in a private group chat.  When it comes to social media there is no privacy.  When two people are involved privacy goes out the window - forget about a group.

We live in a crazy world.  There are so many stories of kids losing scholarships for college because of what they posted on social media.  What you may think is innocent or funny, someone else may use against you.

How about this scenario: you and another girl are the fighting for a spot on a big D1 program.  One of your friends posted a picture of you with a red cup in your hand.  The other girls finds the picture and anonymously forwards it to the coach who is recruiting you.  That red cup may have had nothing in it, or maybe it did - however, your reputation is now at risk.  This is not a made up story - it has happened.

Therefore we want to suggest to the girls a simple formula that will help them when it comes to social media - THINK.

As the poster says - "The Internet is Forever."  We have told the girls, before you post something, besides using the THINK formula, ask yourself - "What would my grandmother think if she read this?"

Also remember it not just what you post - it's what your friends post as well where you are involved.  This is all simple advice that can keep you worry free from sabotaging  your team, your community, your school and most importantly YOU and your family.

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Team Elevate - Where You Are

WHERE YOU ARE


For many of you the start of your high school season really begins this week.  For the first time you get the opportunity to play against other teams.  This is always exciting.  Just to play should be a fun thing.  

However, some of you may be in a situation that is new or uncomfortable for you.  Maybe you did not make the team you tried out for.  How you handle your disappointment will say a lot about you as a person.  Do you let this short term disappointment negatively affect you?  Or does it mold you and make you stronger?  

“It’s not how many times you get knocked down that matters, it’s how many times you get back up.”  If you want something in life bad enough, you will do all that is possible to fight for it and achieve it.  

Maybe you did not make Varsity and were asked to play JV?  Maybe you did not make JV?  Whatever it is - what are you going to do now.  Are you going to put your head down or are you going to keep fighting.  I hope you keep fighting and working HARDER than you ever have. 


I was reading a great book, Vision of a Champion by Anson Dorrance, the head women’s soccer coach at the university of North Carolina.  In the book, one of his former players who is now a big time coach talks about how to handle defeat.  One of the things she says you must do is take personal responsibility for it.  We live in a society that loves to place blame on everyone else .  The call it the “Blame Radar.”  

We want to blame everyone else.  It’s very hard for many athletes to begin to understand that there are politics involved in just about every aspect of life.  Is that fair? Definitely not.  But they exist and we need to deal with them.  How you deal with them will reveal a lot about your character and your beliefs. 

One thing I ask of all of you when you do face defeat is to ask yourself one simple question - Did I do everything I need to put myself in the best position to succeed?  Be honest with yourself.  If you didn’t - work harder.  If you did and you still did not achieve your goal - keep working - harder!  

Some of you may have made the team you tried out for - congratulations!  But the words above apply to you as well.  Everyone will have setbacks when you play sports long enough.  You may get injured, you may get benched, you may not get the playing time you think you deserve  - how you handle yourself in those situations is what is most important.  Don’t blame anyone else - look inside.  Now that you made the team you wanted - be a player and a person who makes a difference.  Be the teammate that every wants to be around.  The best players make everyone around them better.  Be the hardest worker regardless of where you are.  

“The Vision of a Champion is someone bent over, drenched in sweat at the point of exhaustion - when no one else is watching” - by Anson Dorrance after watching Mia Hamm train on her own when no one was watching.  


We live in an “instantaneous world” where we want everything right now.  Success is not instantaneous.  It takes work, determination, grit and a willingness to overcome whatever obstacles come your way.  Success also takes failures and mistakes.  In some case you need to make many mistakes and overcome many failures before you reach true success.  The one thing all of you girls have is a support structure with Team Elevate and our coaching staff.  We are here for you every step of the way, even when you stumble.  No matter where you are just remember that hard work will get you anywhere you want.  We are here to help. If it’s important to you it’s important to us.

All my best!

Coach K